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Every time I hear someone say 'eh' in a questioning tone or to mean 'um actually' I lose my shit. Or even just to play something down.

Like I literally come to hate the person instantly. Its a very strong feeling on a very small sound.

Instant downvotes if I see it on Lemmy too. HATE IT.

How about all y'all?

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[–] Toes@ani.social 15 points 3 days ago (5 children)

"Let's agree to disagree"

This solves nothing, it just equates to a polite way of saying I'm done talking to you.

[–] underreacting@literature.cafe 31 points 3 days ago (3 children)

What do you do if you realise you're just arguing in circles and nothing will be solved by continuing discussing that topic?

[–] Zorro@mander.xyz 1 points 2 days ago

I usually ask them if they drive a volkswagen. Stops the discussion dead, lol!

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 2 days ago

I actually usually just say something like. Look we just disagree. Usually the other person just wants to keep up the disagreement conversation so I through that into a few responses as, I dunno, politeness before I just stop responding.

[–] Sparkles@fedia.io 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Mine is finding a natural pause and kindly “Ah, darn, I have a (thing to do) but it’s been lovely chatting!”

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Sometimes there are other things you need to discuss, but it's time to move on from the pointless argument.

[–] RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 1 points 2 days ago

It admits that neither party is willing to change their opinion so an agreement can't be reached, let's move on.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 14 points 3 days ago (2 children)

But there are some of us who don't even care if Star Trek is better than Star Wars.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This argument dates back to the '80s, so we're talking TOS & TNG vs the original trilogy. I would argue they're not even really the same genre. Star Trek is proper scifi. Star Wars is action/adventure with scifi dressing.

I'm biased because I love Star Trek. But also I like Star Wars. It doesn't have to be either-or, especially because it's apples vs oranges.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I have umbridge with star trek as it made me think life would be better as I got older.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

De-umbrage yourself - in Star Trek lore the world was a complete mess in 2025. The future Roddenberry envisioned could still happen, we just won't be alive to see it. Which I agree is a bummer! :(

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 2 days ago

yeah that was not very clear until well into deep space nine. Granted Q did talk in vague terms with picard about some stuff.

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

Farscape 4 lyfe, bro.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

what is the solution? them conceding that you are correct?

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

Sometimes you have to back the fuck up on an unproductive argument. I don't like it either, but it's often an honorable way out for both parties.

Very close friend and neighbor was arguing with me about 01/06, an event that gave me PTSD-lite. It came to the point that we either dropped it or threw hands. Still, I refused to shake his hand on "agree to disagree".