I think the answer to "am I asexual/aromantic?" is one you gotta answer yourself. But from the sound of it, you'd definitely be in good company with us.

More specifically, I think words like that are best used as descriptors when you're trying to communicate your deal to other people — if they're useful descriptors, go ahead and use them. If they're not, then toss em.

And then the labels are useful for finding people with similar experiences, so that you can hang out with them.

I have a short laundry list of labels and "diagnoses" I don't care about making official in any kind of capacity because that's not the point, the point is finding the people I can relate to and the ways of approaching the world that work for them, because often those things work for me too if I try them out. In the context of ace people, it's taught me that it's actually viable, and a thing that's valid to want, to have a relationship where sex is not an important focus, and it's helped me reorient myself towards close friendships as I'm getting over my last very bad long term relationship.