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Not judging other people. Partly, I'm just quite easy going, partly I've had enough personal history of making mistakes to understand that people often have others reasons for their actions. But mostly I just don't see the point in wasting headspace caring about someone's appearance, opinion or behaviour.
But I feel like I'm constantly hearing people bitching, moaning and picking at other people. There are situations where you need to take a decision about something (particularly if you're in a position of responsibility or authority) but most of the time there seems very little point in being judgemental about someone.
I don't believe in free will so I always think to myself that if I was in their shoes I'd be acting the same way. It doesn't mean I have endless tolerance for bad behavior or that it doesn't affect whether I want to be around said person or not but I don't act as if they're personally responsible for who they are or that they're actively choosing to be that way.
Our brains start firing to take action before we are conscious of that action. We can see this on a scan.
Not a comfortable thought, but our brains are driving and only after taking action do they send an executive summary to the little homonculous behind our eyeballs and we say, "I did that!"