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I mean you could see him recognize that he fucked up in real time. He definitely knew better. It was the ensuing "heated gamer moment" excuse which really made it a meme. He should have just immediately and unambiguously acknowledged that he fucked up and taken real action to show remorse. This is a pretty common pattern with this kind of thing. You can't do the whole "soft apology with a side of justification" and expect things to go back to normal. And this is just a life lesson in general - when you fuck up, you need to really lean into making a change.
He knew it was a bad word though. That's to his credit given the circumstances, IMO.
Maybe it's a common pattern because people go into shock after they realize they fucked up? Not everyone is calm, cool, and collected when they realize they made a mistake.
I lived with an embarrassment for two decades before I apologized to a mate of mine. And that wasn't even my fault. I was set up into embarrassing myself (by proxy of embarrassing my mate). Either way, being embarrassed can definitely put you in a sort of deer in headlights mode and continue like nothing happened while you try to assess.