Why does being trans define you?

If your entire goal is to become what you feel you're meant to be, then why would being trans be anything other than a temporary state?

it is based as if being trans is something to be cured and overcome instead of something that defines you, even after transitioning

Lol, no you just assumed all of that and have no causal reasoning for it. Just like all the other hexbear users!

also throwing another trans people under the bus is not as good as a strategy as you think

What are you even fucking saying? How can you be so braindead to treat acceptance as some underhanded "trans people are mentally ill" message, and then make the other MASSIVE leap to me throwing trans people under the bus? Actually, do you even know what that phrase means? Because you used it incorrectly.