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Self care tips? please?
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Oh, one thing I've had luck with is the Curly Girl methods. You can read all about it, but I'll share what worked for me real quick. Im white, and I had straight light brown hair that might get wavey on occasion. This info helps determine your hair type.
So I use Shikai everyday shampoo in cucumber. And I have terrible scalp buildup of dead skin, so I use a scalp silicone scrub brush to exfoliate that junk off of my head.
Then I use Garnier Whole Blends smoothing conditioner with coconut oil. Coconut oil works well for some but it can be a trouble ingredient on curlier hair. Youre looking for a product with no parabens, phthalates, or silicones. It has to be clear of these things or your hair just wont pick up new curls.
And I did the method where you kind of split your hair into groups and gently pull on it. I shit you not I did this twice, and months later I still have a few waves in my hair. And I think the waves make my hair a lot more feminine than if it laid straight.
When I wash, I also use a leave-in conditioner. I have Grow Long by marc anthony. Its fine but there's nothing special about it. I also have a detangler from pantene, and a paddle brush. No more thin toothed combs, ya gotta start with a brush with wide teeth to avoid damaging it.