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I was also regularly abused as a kid and I can confirm I've never dated a teenager while in my 30s. Being abused is not an excuse for perpetuating abuse.
You lambast others for their reductive thinking while you post something like that? Pots and kettles come to mind.
And it's not reductive to weigh the issue based solely on your circumstances?
There's a weight of evidence to suggest a correlation. There's evidence to the contrary, too, which should also be considered. I just wondered if anybody's factoring it in at all, I certainly haven't heard or read mentioned much in mainstream news.
I imagine it's not mentioned because of the whole "not all victims are abusers so it's somewhat irrelevant" schtick. You seem to be getting a bit confused, are you white knighting for reason/due process to prevail or not?
I wasn't mentioning it in that spirit, certainly not in his defence. I think there's a difference between understanding and condonation that many (to wit, you) fail to appreciate.
Also, I don't think advocating reason and due process should be stigmatised, whatever the motivation.
Then why were you mentioning it?
No one is stigmatising it, you just seem to be doing a poor job of sticking to it.
Because I don't think it's common knowledge, it goes some way to explaining (not excusing mind you, before you start salivating) what may or may not have happened. What's more, I don't think people want to know - or want others to know - because it muddies the waters and they just want good vs. bad.
I'm doing a great job sticking to my objectivity, it's just that when all you're surrounded by is half the story, anything contrary to the picture that that paints, looks like complete polar opposition.
If you say so, champ.
Oh, we've started with the belittling approach; trying to condescend your way out? How cheap.
If you don't want cheap, be deserving of expensive
Worthy of Clintons. Scratch that, worthy of a wine-obsessed middle-aged woman's Facebook.
I guess you would know better than most.
Lol, meaning what? I get a lot of greeting cards? I know a lot of middle-aged women? More weak sauce.
It means as much as what you said.
Wow, how trenchant.
Indubitably.
Has this become a last word fight?
Maybe if you're very sad and lonely.
Let's find out.