How are cishet people viewed in general in the LGBTQ community? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by Lumo@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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First of all I'd like to apologize in advance for any insensitive statements I might make (I hope I don't though), I'm trying my best not to and I was just curious :)

I'm an 18-year-old cishet guy currently in uni and recently the thought popped into my head that I have no clue how the LGBTQ community would view me as someone who's not in the space or actively an ally. I would more accurately describe myself currently as a "don't care" person in the sense that to me it genuinely does not matter what someone identifies as or who someone is attracted to. I don't know how much this means, but I have multiple gay friends, my roommate is bi and I dated a person who went as a girl in day to day life because it was more convenient to her/them although she/they told me she/they partially identified as nonbinary (correct pronoun usage pls >.<) but I don't know if all this is the classic "but i have a black friend" argument that racists use.

To cut to the point: I'm curious as to how I would be seen by queer people in general, as I've witnessed both very inclusive and nice people (mostly here), but also some that said that LGBTQ places are not to be used by cishet people and I'm wondering what the best attitude to take would be.

Thanks!

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[-] Zagaroth@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

Being an ally doesn't need to be about showing it aggressively. I'm also cishet, and consider myself an ally, but I generally don't have any flags or such, because I don't do flags for anything. However, when I was streaming a lot, I specifically labeled my channel as being a safe space, I police my discord (or would, but there's been no need so far, so just a watchful presence. :) ), and in the serial I am writing, societies are very friendly to non-cishet individuals and partnerships. The only time gender in a couple has been an issue was in a conversation regarding a potential heir, and that was resolved simply by having the title pass through a sibling instead. There were some magic options available as well, but neither partner wanted to deal with the other issues there.