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how do you know? (lemmy.ml)
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I'm not sure whether this is the right place for this question, but... How do you know?

Like, I would 100% be a woman if I could choose. I also always play a female character in games. When I see a girl I feel a strong sexual attraction, but I also feel jealous of her.

But, I'm honestly not sure if I am not cisgendered. I feel like I missed the boat. I also don't know if I am sure enough. Is this impostor syndrome? How do I know it's not just sexual attraction? Or me being unhappy with the role men have in this world? Or me being depressed otherwise? It all seems like a big tangled mess.

Thanks a lot for all the comments. I made an appointment with my GP next week and hope that he can refer me to a therapist. All the best to you all <3

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[-] bobbi_d2@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

There's a science fiction story, I think by Cory Doctorow, in which one of the technologies was gender reassignment restrooms. Go in, spend (unspecified, but not too terribly long, since characters talked about going in preparation for activities that night) time, and emerge with the new gender as though born to it. And my first thought was, yes, I would pay any amount of money to have that available to me. Like genderdysphoria.fyi says, if you think about it at all, you're already thinking about it 100% more than most cis people ever do.

[-] Gebruikersnaam@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

You are right, I'm on the waiting list now.

[-] firelink@feddit.nl 1 points 1 year ago

Idk how this site even works but lately ive been very confused i have no real sexdrive to speak off and idk what i am how does anyone know should i be trans idk i know its nonsense and ill never be how id wanna be how do yall deal with it im mega socially awkward a single dm kills me i guess :/

[-] Gebruikersnaam@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

So, based on the answers I got I realized that I am most likely trans. Therefore, I started experimenting:

  • Trying on make up
  • Trying on female clothes
  • Removing body hair
  • Using feminine body language

All of these things felt incredibly natural and helped me understand that, yes, I am transgender. I started HRT this week and I was really excited when I could start. I've been denying this part of my identity for decades and finally being able to embrace that part of myself feels really euphoric.

I don't know how this feels for you, a low sex drive could have many causes, but reading through the replies on this post and actively experimenting really helped me narrow this down. One of the kind people here recommended https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/, which was also a great resource.

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