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Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like?
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I don't think it federates, but there's Alovoa, an open source dating platform.
You know, I am single and have been curious about dating apps for a while. But I never really got over the hurdle of making a profile because of how much of a hellscape it seems. I may be curious enough to make a profile in this website tonight (fully expecting 0 users in my entire country)
I took the leap last year into algorithmic dating, and it's been a great experience. Go in with no expectations just try to have as much fun, delight, conversation, wonder as possible and roll with the punches. There is always an adventure waiting.
I've meet with people all over, done little adventures, and got good friends out of it, and even some romance. Toally worth it to explore.
When you say algorithmic dating, did you try multiple apps or just one? Did you have more positive experiences with any one app?
I may do it, but I'm a bit shy about the account creation part, specifically having to take pictures of myself which are not terrible. I feel like I'm decently attractive, but I hate all pictures of me. I think this is honestly my biggest hurdle.
Tried multiple, basically it doesn't matter how good the app is, but where the people are. Different apps are popular in different places.
Everyone you haven't met is a stranger, it doesn't matter what strangers think. Just take your photos and make a profile, don't worry about it. Get the profile going and just see what happens, no pressure, all strangers anyway.
It doesn't matter if you don't like your own photos, your not trying to match with yourself. We are our own worst critics, other people are more forgiving.
Thanks! I'm almost wondering if a federated dating platform would even work, given the moderation challenges.
Edit: Also there were like, three women in my area, so that's problematic.
I tried it. Pretty cool, but the closest user to me was 270 km away. Maybe one day I'll meet her, but for now I guess it doesn't have critical mass for me.