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How do I give up on them? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

I am having issues letting go of my family. My dad, he's awesome. Bought me a bunch of makeup and nails polish and is just generally wonderful.

My mom and one of my brothers at least are giant thundercunts. My brother cut me out of my nephew's life cuz 8 "is too young to be thinking of gender identity," even though they have been saying "it's a boy" since the ultrasound. My mom is standing up for my brothers parental rights, yet won't even say my brother is being a dickheaded bigot. "Cuz I'm 37 and old enough to fight my own battles"

I want my mom and my brothers. I'm really sad and hurt. I have told them as such. They do not care. How do I cut them out and let them go. It's really hard.

I'm just torturing myself every day, trying to win them over. It hurts that they don't care. I want them in my life, but not if they are going to be filled with so much hate.

Help?

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[-] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Why subject yourself to so much pain when there are others willing to share love with you? Make your chosen family.

[-] EsheLynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago

My brother has been there more than my parents have. Whenever Mom and dad exchanged custody, he was there.

And I guess I have always had this idealized vision of my mom.its been two months, but I'm still having problems flipping that switch, allowing myself to let them go. 37 years is a long time, ya know?

this post was submitted on 07 Oct 2023
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