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My shell cracked this past weekend
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I've been wanting to do some hair removal, but I've got this pre-planned trip to Texas coming up so... Don't really want to make any noticeable changes before that. But definitely this winter when I can experiment undetected under long clothing ๐๐ฏ
I've not gone out full fem, but I'm pretty sure I would get looks. I have went out a couple times in polish and for the most part, I don't think anyone acted like they noticed. One time I was an anxious wreck though, hiding my hands half the day.
That's totally fine. We got lots of internalised trans-"phobia" (its not a phobia, they are just assholes!) to deal with and getting over that takes time.
I think I'm undoing lots of internalized stuff. Slowly making progress though!
That does make me feel better about it, but going from an area that is fairly accepting, traveling through the middle of nowhere to an area that I don't know how friendly it is. I don't want to draw any odd attention to myself.
100%! The internalised transphobia isn't being afraid of being trans, it's being afraid of people reacting to us being trans
As a trans femme deep in Texas, I really wouldn't worry about it. Everyone here is caught up in their own lives just as much as everywhere else.
I look forward to hearing how your hair removal experiment goes :)