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this post was submitted on 24 Oct 2023
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Imposter syndrome is pretty common and it sounds like you've put in a hell of a lot of work turning your life around, so that's something you can and should be proud of.
In the meantime though; remember that often it's not that they actually want to know, they're just looking for common ground or something to talk about. You can be vague or redirect; "I'm in I.T." (not a lie) or "I work for a (whatever industry you dev for) company." (also not a lie) and turn the question back on them. Then ask follow up questions. Most people love to talk about themselves, just give them an excuse.
Hey, this is the second imposter syndrome call out. I will be aware that this is a thing now.
Yeah I will try and be vague unless they prove further.
As for the other point, I am inherently curious so I do prefer to ask lots of questions and learn about others rather than talk about myself.
Thanks.