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How to deal with annoying co-worker
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this post was submitted on 27 Oct 2023
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Have you tried... you know... talking to him about it?
I mean a cool headed calm discussion avoid not making farther noises.
I guess it depends on the culture of your work place but honestly I feel like this is something that can be easily resolved and it's part of managing a team.
So the issue is it's like a loop you be nice and ignore him he thinks he's cool.
You be mean and tell him he's annoying he paints you as the asshole.
You be nice and tell him he's being annoying he throws a pity party and makes you feel guilty for saying anything.
Sorry mate. IMO this is really bread and butter for a team leader.
You're not children. You don't need to be "nice" or "mean".
Fair point I am probably overthinking it.
You'd be surprised how good ChatGPT is at providing an answer just like the one homie just gave ya.
There is an effective formula for feedback I like.
In this case, when you make repeat the same joke it loses all humor value and becomes an annoyance.
It would be better if jokes were limited in use, and certainly not repeated.
Have you tried not feeling guilty? :-)
It is still the same: It is his bad behaviour. Regardless how many times he switches from one kind of clown to another kind of clown.
Yes it is hard, you need to stay calm and act like a grown up at all times. Otherwise he 'has got you'.
If you can stay calm, then talk about his behaviour, and how inappropriate it is, and ask him to stop it. Every time.
Sure, but what's the end game supposed to be, then? Just making the same request over and over again indefinitely?
One of them is going to learn something some day (and then a change can happen). Do you ask who? I think it depends on what is worse: giving that talk or having to listen to that talk.