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How it feels to come out
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this post was submitted on 04 Dec 2023
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It’s been a little over a year since I came out to the bulk of my family and friends. The feeling I get when telling them is different per group of people or even per person.
Coming out to my mom felt like the biggest weight was off my chest and I could finally breathe. This helped stop panic attacks I had been having for about 2 years as well.
Coming out to my sister was nerve racking but in the end so amazing, as she’s incredibly supportive. Our relationship has grown so much and she’s like my best friend now.
While each chunk of people and individual person made me feel that much closer to finally being done with coming out, what really sealed the deal for me was coming out professionally (at work and on LinkedIn) to finally shut the last doors people had into my old life. The feeling I had then was just…. Contentment. No matter where I went now, I didn’t have to pretend or hide anything anymore. That alone is probably the most amazing feeling in the world.
As far as how I felt when I accepted myself… I’m still working on that lol.
While the impact of coming out to family brought me so much peace, coming out professionally is what really killed the stress. It was a huge change in my own mindset too, no longer having to bounce back and forth between identities.
It’s not an easy thing to do but I promise that you can do it ❤️