How it feels to come out (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago by Ekybio@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Greetings

Im currently in the process of coming out! (At least to the people I trust. One step at a time ...)

So I would really like to know how it feelt for you when you embarked on that journey.

Im particularly interested in the emotional aspects of that and also how it affected your sense of self.

Especially in what happened the moment you accepted yourself.

Happy to hear your stories!

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[-] Wahots@pawb.social 1 points 11 months ago

Not trans, but it was a week of intense pain as I ripped the bandaid off to myself mentally, and then to my friends, family, and everyone else. I did two things right though: I reached out to other friends, one of whom was in the exact same spot I was in and still closeted, and two, I immediately went and saw a counselor. The friend and I talked about coming out at length, and the counselor also helped turn something painful into something better. It's been about two years now, and I feel happy and have a massive weight lifted off my chest. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

That other guy is my bi (coming out) brother, and my SO and I are getting engaged soon. Things are getting much better than they have in years :)

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