Ah yeah, no it’s definitely weird to me how that goes for y’all. In my experience lesbian hookups include about half an hour of buildup conversation minimum and half an hour or so of talking after. Maybe even grabbing dinner. I love it lol.

But yeah your complaints are things I’ve heard gay and bi men complain about and brag about.

When it comes to sex idk, but I definitely think that in general that emotional honesty and care is a learned behavior. And it’s really unfortunate how many men struggle with these traits as they’re part of being emotionally well adjusted.

And I will say just to reassure, you don’t have to hookup just because you’re a guy. You can prioritize romance, connection, and emotionally mature men.