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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by cheese_greater@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Nobody tells me what I'm going to do or where I will be going and when that happens

I am open to invitations or requests or suggestions where my involvement is desired or ostensibly necesary for somone else. But I will never respond to this as a statement of fact or in the form of a threat

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[-] semi_sentient@sh.itjust.works 4 points 11 months ago

I find it’s important to allow yourself to be vulnerable to a moderate degree, to give people the chance to expose themselves as a giver or taker.

[-] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I feel like you might want to make sure you have all your bases covered and that you're not setting yourself up for desperation/exploitation. Its so important with other people where this is suspected, to fail and fail quickly and and as harmlessly as possible.

[-] Ataraxia@sh.itjust.works 1 points 11 months ago

Letting a taker take even once just teaches them they can take and move on to the next victim. People need to prove themselves as trustworthy before giving them anything. Offer them something relatively small like buying lunch. If they don't hesitate to take it then they're takers. Someone who won't refuse at least twice has no qualms about taking for nothing. But I just don't associate with people enough to allow them the chance to even try.

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