Nobody asks for references outside of minimum wage positions unless they're a small shop.

I've found this to be highly variable over my past few career moves.

My resume indicates that professional references are available upon request.

In my last two job searches, I've had responses ranging from absolutely zero interest in references, to not only requesting the ones I indicated but also asking for even more names and contacts.

Obviously your mind is already made up, but in my experience, it seems the wise move to stay professional in your professional life, even when leaving a bad job.

I am a mid career enginer, I was requested two references, one colleague and one manager, for my current job.

What is your reason for telling your manager to fuck off? Ego satisfaction for 5 min? What about thinking that if you tell him what went wrong, maybe they can improve, which may improve the work conditions of your ex colleagues? I find that more satisfying. I always try to raise my voice to improve my ex-colleagues conditions before I leave because I'm freer to speak up.