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What's something you used to do/see/say but don't anymore because you don't feel it's right? (lemmy.world)

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Me personally? I've become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women's expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I've matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I've come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of 'humor' really is, and I regret it deeply.

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[-] Cethin@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 year ago

I like the Battlestar Galactica solution to this: sir should not be gendered. It should just be a term of respect and maybe authority. It's gendered more out of convention than definition. I don't know how we reach that point, but that's my reference. I think it basically has to start with the military. They should stop using ma'am for women and use sir.

[-] Calamades@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago

I really like this take and love it when I come across it in media.

[-] brygphilomena@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I feel like we made many terms much more gendered than they were before. If I'm hanging with a mixed group and I say "hey guys" towards the whole group "guys" is being used as a genderless, inclusive term.

I personally feel that in everyday casual conversation we should focus on the intent of what's spoken and not get into the minutia of the terminology. Sir/ma'am are terms of respect and the underlying message behind them is respect. If a person accidentally misgendered someone while using them, it doesn't negate the intended respect.

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