Your concerns for a lot of your life experiences are completely valid, but when you make the jump from "a lot of women have been assholes to me" to "women are assholes", you fall into the same pitfall people are criticizing in this thread. There are a lot of women who are assholes. There are a lot of men who are assholes. Let's criticize those behaviors, and make society a little bit better insofar we're able to, rather than join their ranks.