Truth is the second option one is just a normal ass guy. Everyone has emotions and needs. The fact is it's still taboo to be a "man" and have emotions.

Like honestly tell me any other option on there is preferable to someone with emotions... She acting like women don't require the same thing? Gtfoh. It's not even a bad thing. It's just a human thing.

So she wants a guy with a low sex drive, who she doesnt have to have any emotional attachment to, but who emotionally invested in her, that doesnt have any self confidence, and doesnt know any feminist theory so he cant tell he's in a toxic relationship and doesnt treat her like "shit" (an equal)

That seems a bit hard on the dudes.

Relationships are emotional labor on both sides

I have no idea who this chick is, but it aint exactly a string of hits for us guys out here either. People suck in general.

Meanwhile the dating pool for men contains the following:

Crickets

Well, that post is a straight flush of red flags.

So she's complaining about sensitive guys, but also doesn't want them to be emotionally distant.

Basically wants the guy to do the "emotional labour" but not do any herself.

The dating pool for young men is literally

-OF models

-"Sensitive" girls you have to perform constant emotional labor for

-Narcissistic (if not sociopathic) insta models

-Emotionally abusive manipulators

-Spambots

I certainly dislike people who have neat little boxes to put other people in. I know it's a human thing, still think it's detrimental.

I hate that I’m the second, and so aggressively that it’s hurt relationships before

Well, if we're generalizing THAT much, the dating pool for guys is just as bad.

We've got: -women who will go out with you just for a free dinner date, then never talk to you again -women who are looking for sugar daddies -women obsessed with their socials (IG, TikTok, etc) -women so unnatural you question they can still be considered human (lip fillers, butt lifts, boob jobs, have you ever heard of the term "Bimbofication"?) -all of the above

In reality, there are so many more people in this world that don't fit any of these categories on the men or women side. It's just that a lot of the "dating pool" she's talking about is centered around dating apps. The real world is so much more diverse.

People calling the effort you put in to support your partners, friends and family "emotional labor" are either blatantly misinformed or people who want a pass on not giving a shit about their "close ones".

Emotional labor, as a term, was created to explain the difficulties and effort someone has to engage in to regulate their emotions when they're constantly dealing with the suffering of other people during work. It's valid, just as long as you use it in its appropriate context. This dumbass appropriation of the term by a certain branch of liberals is like if someone used the physical concept of entropy to justify why they're never getting out of depression.

If someone only wants emotionless relationships with people they only interact with for their own benefit, and never giving a care in turn, that's legitimate, as long as they don't lie about their intentions. But that might also explain why this Hannah at the OP cannot find a good partner.

Dating pool for young men is great tho. Women pick you literally if you're tall enough for their favourite shoes

Lemmy wins again. This time it's the dating game!

Gr8 b8 m8

There are probably also a lot of single autistic spectrums who are actively avoiding interacting with the rest of the pool.

Well yeah. The sane ones aren’t looking for relationships because of a combination of the world being on fire, money being worthless and nigh-impossible to obtain, and trauma from past toxic relationships. They decided to focus their efforts on their own lives rather than someone else’s.

Either that, or they don’t even need to date, because someone in their friend group snapped them up. Either or, really.

She forgot creepy old rich guys.

Uhh you can switch the genders and it wouldn’t be a lie. Except the last part would be “still treats other races like shit”. In my experience many “woke” women are covert racist, especially against Asian men. Even some “woke” Western Asian women can be pretty racist against Asian men.

I think this huge anti porn push is funny.

"You're not good/popular with women? Sucks to suck you're not allowed to tend to your needs apply that desire to toxicity towards women by working out and feeling entitled to women because you work out instead!"

Me, an emotionally distant narcissistic porn addict: get on my level nerds

Fuck I m the first one, well at least I m not on 4chan

1, 2, 5 - all me. Gotta be strategic about it, the more pools I appear in the higher are my chances.

Started to post cringe memes on Linkedin, recently. Anyone got tips on how to get on Insta? Do I really have to hit the gym?

Doesn't everyone fall into one of these categories? Are there more people?