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Me personally? I've become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women's expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I've matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I've come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of 'humor' really is, and I regret it deeply.

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[-] SimplyATable@lemmy.fmhy.ml 49 points 1 year ago

I used to be a full on incel, it's an easy hole to fall into if you hate yourself. I had to take a good look at myself and realize that I was the problem, and now I'm a far happier person

[-] cvozbosher@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

I was lucky enough that inceldom tried to pull me in before the internet is what it is now. The deacon effect (flawed women are attracted to assholes theory) is what almost got me. If I looked that up and then my youtube algorithm started shoving other things that "seem right" to a 14 year old boy. I would have turned out way worse. Life is already pretty hard to navigate without demonizing half the world.

[-] ZodiacSF1969@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

That's good you developed the insight to change. I think a lot of these guys could live happier lives of they looked within and made the effort.

[-] mst@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

I've always though that being an incel would be far too easy to get into. Back when I was a young, (even more) socially anxious and depressed teenager, I could see myself definitely agreeing with some of their world views. Thankfully I finally took some responsibility for my own issues, much like you have done, but it's absolutely wild to me that I almost found myself identifying as one of them.

[-] pythonoob@programming.dev 2 points 1 year ago

Damn bro, how did you get out of that hole?

[-] thorbot@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I used to be an incel.

Still am, but used to be, too!

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