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The transphobia stops now (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/196@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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This community is housed on an instance run by two trans women, focused on the needs of the queer and gender diverse community.

We allowed 196 here because we were promised the community is queer and trans inclusive.

If you're here it's because you're aggressively supportive of trans folk. Not middle of the ground, not "just asking questions".

If your response to that is, "yes, but..." then this isn't the instance for you, and by extension, this isn't the community for you.

tl;dr - Unambiguous support and inclusion, or fuck off somewhere else.

Edit - I changed the phrase "aggressive support to "unambiguous support", as there was some confusion over the intent behind my previous phrasing.

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[-] unmarketableplushie@pawb.social 56 points 1 year ago

One of the mods made a post about how this comment being really creepy about trans men's bodies somehow wasn't transphobic and then deleted it after people started calling them out lol

[-] LeylaaLovee@lemmy.blahaj.zone 40 points 1 year ago

Thank you for providing good context on this thread. The original comment was ass, but not important overall. If the mod hadn't decided to explicitly defend it, this wouldn't even be a conversation. This entire discourse would have been avoided if it wasn't for a shitty mod post.

[-] BraBraBra@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

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[-] good_girl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 year ago

Fuck off.

Genital preferences are valid as far as any preference for physical attributes but when you're reducing people to purely genitals it's gross and no respect needs to be given to the argument.

[-] BraBraBra@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago

That's not what happened. In the context of dating and sex it's an extremely relevant point. Sounds like you're mad at a headline without reading the article, in a manner of speaking. So you fuck off.

[-] good_girl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 year ago

The original comment literally boiled down to "boobs and vagina is woman, penis is man".

[-] BraBraBra@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

No it didn't. He explained he would be put off by a transitioned trans man. Go through their comment history and you'll see they'd be comfortable dating preop, as long as their partner is comfortable with them finding their femininity attractive.

[-] priapus@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

That is not at all what it said. The original commenter said that he would not be willing to date a trans man after they transition because he cannot find a penis sexually attractive and because he does find boons sexually attractive. This is a completely ok thing to say, it's what was said after this original comment that became a problem. The post should not have been made by the mod, because it led to a lot of transphobes commenting.

[-] LeylaaLovee@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 year ago

The mod could have just... Not responded to it like they don't respond to thousands of comments. You're not listening to the point. If you're straight, don't fuck trans men because you view them as women because vagina and boob

[-] BraBraBra@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

You're missing the point. His point was explicitly that he wouldn't date post op trans men.

What you saying right now was literally his point. To date a trans man because finda him attractive for his femininity wouldn't work. That was literally his entire point.

[-] unmarketableplushie@pawb.social 2 points 1 year ago

Nedankinde. This is an issue we all care about, after all.

[-] BraBraBra@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago

The guy said he wasn't into dicks and that it would be weird to like something about his partner that they would want gone and dislike. That's not transphobic. It honestly bonkers that people find that to be transphobic.