Yes, I suppose we could just become more silent and withdrawn, couldn't we?

Let me try a different tack. I know I have issues. I've been working on myself for years. As men, we mostly experience negative reinforcement with emotional growth.

But if we are trying to get healthy, how are we supposed to respond to that kind of invalidating talk, inside our own heads? What if the woman saying that kind of stuff isn't just venting her frustration onto the internet, what if she's saying it to us, in a relationship? Does that kind of talk inspire us to improve or push us into darker places? Is complaining about us like this in any way helping to improve the way men and women interact?