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[-] criticon@lemmy.ca 114 points 1 year ago

"Matt Healy undoubtedly just made it worse for queer Malaysians who actually live here, and have to face the consequences because we all know our politicians are gonna use this to further their agenda," Carmen Rose, a Malaysian drag queen and performer, said on Twitter.

No, he didn't make it worse. The government is making it worse

[-] Larvitar@kbin.social 34 points 1 year ago

Yeah I don't understand why that drag queen had to resort to victim blaming.

[-] NIB@lemmy.world 55 points 1 year ago

Because keeping a low profile is how they can manage to survive in a homophobic society. Everyone is grandstanding while living in liberal western societies, ignoring how hard things are for less fortunate people.

It's not like things are sunshines and roses for gay people in liberal western societies. Pride parades started in the US from a riot when they couldn't take it anymore. The UK chemically castrated Alan Turing. Hiding is a good way for the individual to survive, but to forward progress for the group in the future, attention needs to be brought to these issues.

[-] Lenins2ndCat@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Attention is only beneficial when you have the correct political conditions to do it. Drawing attention at the wrong time gets you cracked down upon or worse, killed.

An absolutist position on this is how western liberals continually contribute to worsening matters for lgbt people in the global south. Stick to your fucking lane and let people from that country handle their local issues, they understand the local culture and the conditions better than you do.

[-] Sir_Simon_Spamalot@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

As someone who lives in SE Asia, I agree. The west have no idea, they think they know it all, judging everybody from that ivory tower they call moral high ground.

[-] Lenins2ndCat@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

It's such a difficult topic. As an lgbt person I want the lgbt people in those countries leading the strategy to get change. Not a bunch of people that want to do regime change for the sake of US interests while weaponising marginalised peoples as a tool to create consent for it among the US home population.

All this does is make people in the global south see lgbt issues as a tool of US oppression. It actively harms efforts of local lgbt people in achieving the necessary cultural change in views because people see it as necessary to oppose it in order to protect their economic interests from becoming a US colony or vassal.

[-] NuPNuA@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Alan Turing was castrated in the 1950s and has been posthumously pardoned at this point. The first pride parade in the US after Stonewall was in the 1970s.

Using examples half a century or more old as a comparison to what's happening today is incredibly disengenuious.

[-] IWantToFuckSpez@kbin.social 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

As if events like Stonewall never happened in the west. How did those western societies became liberal? Because people fought back, blood has been spilled to reach where those societies are now. Unfortunately keeping a low profile will not progress society and will keep the community at risk. Jews kept a low profile in Europe for centuries and then were exterminated.

[-] NIB@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Change takes time, decades, often centuries. You are asking a society that has norms similar to 100years ago in Europe to accelerate to where the West currently is. I dont think you understand how slow things improved for lgbtq in the West and how recent that change is.

Despite things not being perfect, lgbtq acceptance is 50%+ in most western countries. That means it usually isnt socially acceptable to go against lgbtq, neither for the people, nor for the politicians.

Now imagine a society whose people oppose lgbtq by 95%. Who is going to stick their neck out? Their neck will simply be chopped off. Change will take time. Slowly those lgbtq people will make lgbtq acceptable within their inner circle and then their inner circle will make lgbtq acceptable in a wider but small part of society(ie liberals) and that small part of society will slowly be able to make lgbtq acceptable as a societal norm by "converting" more and more people.

The structure does not exist in these societies for lgbtq people to fight for their rights. Their best hope is that their inner circle can accept them and they can live a normal life while keeping a low profile, they are still at stage 1.

Or to put it in a different perspective, what will happen to you if you go to a plaza in Pyongyang and demand democracy/human rights? Do you think that would be smart? Or productive? You will just get arrested and be sent to a prison camp. And it is even worse with lgbtq rights, because a lot of north koreans can get on board with democracy and human rights but in these societies, 95% of the people are actively against lgbtq.

PS I am not interested in debating about homosexuality in 1920s Germany or whatever because that is a niche that completely ignores actual societal historical facts.

[-] FlowVoid@midwest.social 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

In 1988, only 10% of Americans supported gay marriage. Change is slow, until it's not.

And even if you're afraid to push for change, someone else will find the courage.

[-] NIB@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

True but they are still not at the pushing point. They are on "maybe i can get friends who accept me for who i am without anyone betraying my trust" stage. Once they can somewhat reliably do that, ie once there is a small part of non lgbtq allies, then with those allies they can start pushing.

10% is a when an idea is becoming mainstream and mass adoption is greatly accelerating.

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/07/110725190044.htm

"When the number of committed opinion holders is below 10 percent, there is no visible progress in the spread of ideas. It would literally take the amount of time comparable to the age of the universe for this size group to reach the majority," said SCNARC Director Boleslaw Szymanski, the Claire and Roland Schmitt Distinguished Professor at Rensselaer. "Once that number grows above 10 percent, the idea spreads like flame."

[-] 43percentburnt@mastodon.social 1 points 1 year ago

@NIB @Larvitar so what is the solution? Stay hidden? Or show that this isn't a taboo! Isn't that what "pride" is all about?

[-] NIB@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yes, stay hidden, try to curate and open up to your inner circle. They are still at step 1. They need to cultivate lgbtq acceptance slowly at this stage or they will be crashed.

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