why are incels frowned/hated upon? (lemmy.world)

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Obviously I can understand why mysoginists are hated upon, As their belief is all women are trash or men are superior etc. But why are incels also generally hated upon? They are lacking in a way that makes them unable to gey in a relationship, but that shouldn't necessarily mean they are mysoginists, right?

What am I missing here? I haven't ever had a relationship with a woman, but I don't hate all women either. I just consider myself unlucky. Does that make me an incel?

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[-] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 110 points 9 months ago

The term "Incel" started out as just meaning "involuntarily celibate", referring to men who, like you and I, have struggled to form meaningful relationships with women.

The term actually originated in forums that were used as like a support group for men who were feeling alone, isolated, and alienated.

Unfortunately, if you get enough guys like that together, they might start riling eachother up and convincing each other that it's not their fault, it's the women's fault. Remember, the one common trait among all these guys was a lack of ability to connect with a woman.

[-] JoBo@feddit.uk 110 points 9 months ago

The word was coined by a woman and the support network she set up was for men and women. Until the space got taken over by bitter men blaming women for all their troubles and, here we are.

The woman who founded the 'incel' movement

[-] PrincessLeiasCat@sh.itjust.works 13 points 9 months ago

Came here to point this out, thanks for doing so.

[-] Eldritch@lemmy.world 11 points 9 months ago

For all others reading. This is the correct origin. It literally had actual, wholesome origins. That like almost everything, was ruined by selfish, entitled misogynist.

[-] Gonzako@lemmy.world 11 points 9 months ago

Hey, I don't struggle to get meaningful relationships! Getting laid tho is a different case sadly

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