No society is to blame. People have been herded into getting excited by products and obsessed with TV shows. There are niches we fit into and we will never admit to thinking anything different than our chosen tribe. If you've chosen to be right wing, Jordan Peterson can do no wrong and to kill a mockingbird is trash. If you're a swiftie, your goddess is absolute. If you're on the left, Israel is inherently demonic. Etc etc. The price you pay for betraying your tribe is isolation, excommunication, disdain. We've bred obedience into the population and sacrificed free will. We're constantly bombarded by Reddit poss and articles about how we're supposed to act and what norms are good and which troubling behaviours are red flags.

So we adjust, rework ourselves, refine our personalities until they become acceptable to our chosen audience. I'd love to get to know other people, but the sad fact is that other people don't want to be known, or have willingly ground down their personality until they're just one of the cattle.

The games people play when dating is a classic example of this. You present yourself a certain way, you shave the right places, you say the right things. If you play correctly you can win a fleshlight with the right to vote.

I'm not interested in having a sex toy that repeats whatever talking points my chosen masters expect. I am a hairy, sweaty, problematic animal. I want to become close with other wretched creatures who say and do inappropriate shit. I'M NOT INTERESTED IN FUCKING CHAT GPT!