Not the OP, but you're not coming across as adversarial. Those of us who aren't wedded to an identity over common sense can disagree without feeling attacked. However, I don't disagree with you. Everything both of you said is true, with your comment making both more true, if that makes sense.

I took my partner to a catholic church to check out the ceremony (she's from a non-christian country). We'd toured it before because it's very grand and impressive from an architectural standpoint. I try to view it through her eyes, as though for the first time (I didn't grow up catholic, but I'd been to many varied-christian masses). What a bizarre ceremony. Any people consider it completely normal. This reflection has nothing to do with the original topic. It's just something that crossed my mind as I typed this out.