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Maybe this next one will be different (lemmy.world)

submitted 7 months ago by The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com

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[-] Sabata11792@kbin.social 71 points 7 months ago

If only someone could appreciate my excitement and not my commitment.

[-] yuriy@lemmy.world 45 points 7 months ago

I read that telling someone about a project triggers the same neural responses that finishing that same project would do, and can make you more prone to leaving it unfinished. I’ve started doing my best to keep super quiet about stuff if it’s a project that I really want/need to actually finish. It’s been working surprisingly well for me!

[-] Sabata11792@kbin.social 18 points 7 months ago

Most of time finishing something feels like getting home in time to poop rather than an accomplishment.

[-] yuriy@lemmy.world 5 points 7 months ago

Yeah I still don’t know how to make half-finished projects more exciting than new ones. That might be a forever problem, but let’s just say the science isn’t out yet. Gotta stay hopeful lmao

[-] Sabata11792@kbin.social 6 points 7 months ago

Same, Half the time I think I bite off more than I can chew and intimidation sets in after the excitement drops.

[-] yuriy@lemmy.world 7 points 7 months ago

You might have luck with some of that intimidation with just repetition/experience. Like I hardly get scared away from metalwork anymore because I’ve been doing a ton of it this year, but I’m still really slow at and kinda scared of painting.

The big killer for me is when anything starts going better then expected, and now I’m suddenly more worried about ruining it than I am excited/confident to finish it. I try to remind myself as often as possible that I stand to learn more from one failure than I could from ten successes.

Anywho I’m definitely rambling now, sorry for that lol

[-] Nommer@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 months ago

I get that with learning programming and without my friend pushing me I get worried that I can't learn and just kind of stop trying.

[-] Brickhead92@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

Is getting home in time to poop not an accomplishment?

I've been doing it wrong this whole time. Well, not today!

[-] akrz@programming.dev 8 points 7 months ago

I feel like that is really true for me

[-] Okokimup@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

This explains a lot.

[-] CaptDust@sh.itjust.works 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I've heard this advice before, it's true you lose that dopamine hit which can help, buuut I also learned peer feedback and external affirmation is apparently an important motivator for me... by keeping quiet I never had anything to talk about, because nothing is finished, which later morphed into nothing even starting, because what's the point.

It's still good advice but be careful don't end up like I was, adjust appropriately.

[-] Infynis@midwest.social 3 points 7 months ago

No wonder Brandon Sanderson has been writing so many secret novels

[-] NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

No wonder I never finished stuff. I can't bare the thought of not showing someone, anyone the awesome stuff I just did in my project.

[-] null@slrpnk.net 3 points 7 months ago

Showing off stuff you did is great.

You want to avoid telling people what you're "going to do".

[-] NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

Ahh, that explains why I can never finish making my video games.

[-] ghostrider2112@lemmy.world 5 points 7 months ago

The universe appreciates your excitement. My issue ultimately ended up being comfortable to give myself permission to spend time on the things that excited me.