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Aspie man here, it's harder for us to do that. I have a friend who I gave the standard, "Hi, my name is MapleEngineer and I have Asperger's. That means..." speech to when I thought she was hinting. She said, "Ok, you don't like hints?" "No." "Ok. I've always found you attractive and have fantasized about sucking your cock. We should get together." We did. It was awesome.
Life would be so by easier if the normies didn't muddy the waters so much with their hints and clues.
Oh yeah, it's why I mentioned I'm a woman - it's certainly relevant to my experience here. I don't have to worry about being perceived as threatening - if I flirt with a woman in an upfront way like I described, I never feel like there's a risk of frightening her. Whereas on the flip side, if a guy asks me out, I'm always a bit on edge because of the small minority who are not safe to politely turn down. "Privilege" is definitely the wrong word for this, but being perceived as non threatening does make some things simpler.
I have been accused of being incredibly dense because I mask by playing all new relationships with women as completely natural. The woman I mentioned in my comment was hinting hard but I played it neutral. After I had a couple of hours to think about it I went back and said, "I have Asperger's and here's what that means. Here's what masking is. I mask by playing hard neutral. I think you might be hinting. Hinting doesn't work with me. If you're hinting you need to stop and just say or ask what you want to say or ask. I won't be offended. I will probably say, 'Yes' (I'm a sexy Aspie and I always say, 'Yes'. )" So she just asked, I said, "Yes" and we had a good time. She told me that she had always found me and my attitude toward sex very appealing but thought I didn't like her because I never flirted or expressed any interest. She said that in the almost 15 years we had been acquainted I had never even touched her. I said I thought it would be fun if the first time we touched was a kiss. The first time we touched it was a kiss. Now I'm waiting to find out if she's going to go with me on a short road trip with one or two nights in a nice hotel this weekend.