That's kind of, not really understanding the power dynamic at work, here. With minorities, being afraid of them is, probably silly, because there's a power dynamic there that's usually in, I'm assuming your example is like, a white person, usually in their favor. This is made more complicated if it's a dynamic between women and men. You know, variable depending on where you go and who you ask to what extent women have less power than men, both, societally, and physically, but certainly, that gap still exists. Especially in social conditioning, which I think is sort of, not really brought up very commonly, but definitely exists. I think the last thread I saw on lemmy about the "sexual divide" was something about true crime, and I think the extreme gendered gap in true crime kind of showcases this difference in social conditioning.

Which isn't like, "not real" or anything, that social conditioning is still a real, physical, tangible thing that exists in people's lives and shapes who they are, it's not as though they can stop believing it just because they're presented with like, a bunch of evidence to the contrary, such is the power and trauma of personal experience.

Sort of core to your question is the problem of like, why white women will call the police because they're afraid of some black dude or racial minority doing anything. Or, why white women are commonly used as a kind of, object which justifies racial violence, even going back to lynchings which take place as a result of like, false rape accusations. I think it's pretty obvious that the inverse of that isn't like, oh, well, we should just let women get raped, or something, right. That's not what you said really at all, but that's my very heavy-handed and probably stupid example of sort of, how you can see the flaws in that dynamic, there, the flaws in that like, framing. One does not lend itself to the other.

Basically, I'm just saying that you can't use racism as a metaphor for sexism, because they're not the same, and they can both intersect.