How long have you gone without being in a romantic relationship? (sopuli.xyz)

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How much time have you spent being single?

If you're currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?

Do you / did you enjoy single life?

What are / were the pros and cons?

Is / was partnership a goal of yours?

If you're currently not single: Did your goals change after getting into a relationship?

What are the pros and cons?

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[-] MrsDoyle@lemmy.world 24 points 6 months ago

Single about 25 years. I'm 71 and I absolutely love my life. I have lots of friends and a very active life, but I love coming home and being alone there. Before menopause I had a strong libido and terrible taste in men, so I had a lot of truly awful relationships, with endless drama.

It's kind of by choice I guess, though I don't get offers. A few years ago a guy gave me the eye and I contemplated it, until I caught sight of his bare feet. Oh dear god no. Self-care is important mate, you need to see a podiatrist.

The main con of being single for me is not enough hugs and cuddles. The pros are too many to give up for that though. I get to decide everything and make plans based on what I want. I can fart loudly, talk to my potplants and be lazy without Someone rolling their eyes, it's bliss.

[-] BaroqueInMind@lemmy.one 9 points 6 months ago

You sound preposterously attractive and amazing.

[-] MrsDoyle@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Why thank you!

[-] Blyfh@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

Hug and cuddle your friends and family! That's what I've been doing and it's awesome.

And maybe I'm biased because of lacking experience, but a relationship where you don't (except maybe initially) feel comfortable farting out loud seems unhealthy...

[-] MrsDoyle@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

I do hug my friends (and family when they visit from far, far away), I'm very huggy. Cuddling is another level of intimacy though. I do miss it, a bit.

My farts are so loud you probably heard me earlier and thought it was a car with engine trouble.

[-] Blyfh@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Bwahahahha 😂

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