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Struggling to tolerate wife's haircut
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this post was submitted on 10 May 2024
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Separation over hair cut is clown
But don't let people tell that your concerns are not valid lol
You got to look at that woman everyday, the reason why you married likely because you felt she was easy on the eyes. Men like women to look a certain way, I am sorry lol
This goes both ways obviously tho.
Doing some switcheroo midway and expecting it not to cause friction is childish.
Women are not meat-based artwork that you own for the sake of looking at them. That's not what marriage is.
Cool, but let's not act as if being attractive isn't high on the list for a lot of people. We aren't living in a society where that's no longer the case. That's why models still have a job, and why actors are incredibly attractive, and hell, why barbers exist and the entire beauty industry does. Nobody would go to plastic surgery if it didn't impact people around them. Even politicians get work done on them constantly.
I'm going to be super super real with you right now. Men who demand very specific looks for their women are either 1) projecting their own womanhood, who they'd be as a woman onto their partner or 2) using their partner to be near other men. It has nothing to do with the woman's attractiveness, barring serious disfigurement.
A simple haircut, outfit, or makeup look being enough to make someone "unattracted" to you, shows that it was about you being their doll from the beginning. OP should buy a wig and wear long hair for himself if he likes it so much. He seems to be projecting being trans onto his wife who stated they are agender.
In essence, you are either gay or a woman yourself at some level (lesbian or not), if you are demanding specific looks to consider your partner "attractive." This is why most lesbian relationships allow for women to look different btw, because both women are allowed to freely express their genders and don't have to be a performative doll for a man - who has no clue what it's like to live as a woman! And he should! Go! Be women! Wear skirts and wigs and do it. Go to Portland and no one will even notice or care. And stop putting your demands on us women.
Yeah okay, whatever you say and believe.
Thank you!! He married a human being, not a fucking haircut, and he should be embarrassed to be so shallow. Some of the comments in this thread are unreal.
https://www.reuters.com/article/idUSTRE5AB0C5/
The empathy gap is huge.