Yikes, that sounds terrible. I'm fairly lucky that despite being nonbinary or possibly some flavor of trans (fucked if I know 😅) and attracted to generally feminine people and not just women, I approximate a cishet dude so I haven't had to get into any sort of gender- or sexuality-related discussions with my parents who are just a hair under 80.

My mom would probably be fine with me regardless, but my dad… well, not so much. He's conservative enough that he probably wouldn't take things too well if I went and came out of the closet to him, so I've just figured that I'll spare both me and him the heartache and just keep this stuff to myself. We're not close so I feel like it's really none of his business anyhow