it's a project with a cohesive idea of what it wants to build, to a certain extent they are perfectly right to stand with "their way or the highway"

this isn't an apple thing, it's just that in the operating system market there isn't any other example of someone having a defined idea of what they want to build

KDE tries to be all of those things, but trying to cast too wide of a net just gets you a mess of settings and unfortunately buggy experience overall

small edit: I have a ton of respect for the KDE devs, I just realized I've been sounding too negative about them, I just don't like the end product