You're not exactly wrong, but from the POV of the people making the videos it is earned. When you see your friends getting killed on purpose, or whole cities of your home being destroyed, you have to develop some coldness and a sick sense of humor if you want to survive mentally and keep getting up for the fight day after day.

Like I say, you're actually sort of right I think from the POV of most of the people in this sub, but that's not the people who are making these videos.