is part of the Linux kernel

Saddly no it's not, its a component embedded by the compiler that can be separately installed to replace the programs default allocator implementation. Also I can't find a fork of android I know of that supports it.

If I understand you correctly, graphene OS is bad because:

1. The developer is using his fans to market the software he helps make, resulting in more people using it.

Arguably that's a good thing as it at least makes people aware that other android forks exist, encouraging people to switch to one of the more private forks of android.

2. The developer hates Mozilla and unfairly hates TOR because he sees them as Mozilla shills.

How does the developer having bad takes effect a piece of software? Firefox in mine and others experience, still works well on the device. Yes I am aware of his vanadium project, if he wants to waste time, power to him.

3. By default the OS complies with government laws both defacto and official.

Why is that a bad thing, especially since it sounds like the alternative is breaking said laws? Yes there are often moral arguments against laws such as that, but the advantage of open source is that you can switch to something that gives you the freedom to break the law if you want.

The only thing you have shown me (which I already agreed with) is the lead developer (who is not the only one working on the project) is immature and paranoid, you have not showed why I should not use the software that he helped make, only that other forks support more hardware.

Thanks for being willing to discuss this stuff, I appreciate you are willing to take the time to write a detailed response.