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How to know you'll turn out trans?
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I'm not trans, but I believe that's the key. You said "turn out trans," but I believe most trans folks never really felt like they were in the right body, ever, though they might not have realized what it was that was wrong earlier. It's not like people wake up one day and think, "oh shit, I'm trans!"
I am trans and I can say I've never felt like I was in the wrong body, I think most of the time that's just a relatively flawed way to describe an experience that can't truely be understood unless you've experienced it.
Of course, no one has the same experience with these things and it's entirely valid if everyone else does feel that way. For me it's mostly just been that something felt like it was missing, and I fixed that when I began to transition. The main thing was how much happier the internal changes made me, estrogen changes how you experience emotions and being out to my family had a similar effect.
When it comes to "signs" the biggest was just being envious of people who had the freedom to express differently than me. I can confirm that it's a gradual realisation, though honestly most of that was overcoming shame and internalised transphobia.
Thanks for sharing that. I was repeating things trans people in my personal life have said, but as you point out, there's no single universal experience.
Really glad to hear you're happier now. It very much sucks that society (and individuals in society) made you feel badly for being who you are.