I didn't want to ramble on too long, but I've had discussions before where I talk about how I feel the Reddit attitude towards mods there has kept mods weak here, out of fear of being overbearing or whatever you want to call it.

Was talking to the person running MaleFashionAdvice and they had wondered why people weren't hanging out there. That isn't typically a group I'd follow, but I checked it out, and the latest post was full of "not interested in this," "fashion is stupid," and I feel there were a few anti-capitalism comments. Otherwise, recent threads included more "normal people" advice than I expected to see in a fashion sub, ie. not all about super expensive or limited things, things that came in less common sizes, etc. But I told them, hey, you might want to clean some of these posts out of here, because if new people start browsing and see way more negative comments than helpful ones, why would they sub? As you said, we can disagree, but bring something to the table instead of just basically going "you suck bro!" Something like a "can we get a thread on some more affordable clothes or about brands that the clothes last" is much more useful and not rude.

It may be the things I browse, but I feel Reddit had plenty of "why do we need to make eveything political" stuff. I read a lot about the environment, animals, and conservation, so of course politics do overlap with that as much as some "old school outdoorsman" may see that as a safe space. But again, there's reasonable ways to discuss it, and we should be open to listening to others, especially if they bring supporting facts to back them up.

I will try to love communism and linux to a greater degree than I already do.

I see we have a similar analysis of the average Lemmy commenter! 😆

I'm glad you enjoy my content. I always try to maintain it as an oasis for positive, peaceful, and factual content.

I miss Beehaw. I didn't get it at first since most of Lemmy felt the same, but as time went on, Beehaw kept the same vibe while other instances started to feel more like Reddit. Sadly, Beehaw walled off their garden a bit too much for me, which I respect their choice, but I was already doing the bulk of my posting on World and wanted to keep growing the audience.

Downvotes for trolling or misinformation are important, but when they're used just to be bitchy, I don't get the point. It's rude and discourages the small number of commenters we have.

Snarking at depressing news can be healthy to help process it, but I wish it would focus on the problems and the people causing it, but not be outright crappy to people. Scrolling the threads about Senator Inhofe yesterday, the guy sucked and did a lot of bad things, but the gloating over a guy's death isn't a great look for us. I won't be shedding any tears, but publicly cheering a guy's death isn't something I like keeping company with.

Thank you. I feel many are falling in the same trap as the actual media: they want engagement in their community, and the stuff that riles people up does that and gets them coming back. My question is if that is what we want growing here?

I'd rather this just be a place to chill and have fun, but stay up to date on news too. I don't know why people want to argue with the same dozen people here when they could antagonize many more people at Reddit if that's their thing.

I try to post nothing but positive stuff, but if I look around one day and don't enjoy anything else around me here, why would I stay?

I pitch in where I can and try to steer things back. I look for accurate but shitty responses and try to rephrase them in a more helpful and respectful manner, for example.

It is hard to share articles when they come already set with ragebait titles and writing styles, but we can still hold our own selves accountable how we respond and interact with that content.