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My friend is acting really weird with my girlfriend
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this post was submitted on 16 Jul 2024
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He's gay and closeted, looking for a friend, and it's easier to talk to a girl than directly to you.
He has feelings for your girlfriend. This is not an issue, as long as you trust your girlfriend. Feel flattered that your girlfriend is so awesome.
It’s really impossible to know without more context, but some people just find it easier to talk to women. Even if he doesn’t have feelings for your girlfriend, he might simply find her interactions easier to process. This isn’t uncommon with people who are going through a lot of heavy personal trauma.
Clearly girlfriend is not having it anymore... He needs to find another shop.
These behavior already crossed inappropriate line and likely this person has no social skills to navigate that.
Also, this person is not OPs friend
I don’t think anything here is clear. It’s virtually impossible to understand a real world scenario from a couple of paragraphs written by a single person. Interpersonal relationships have a shit ton of nuance, and making judgements quickly often burns bridges that had no business being burned.
And that itself is very sparse on details. It didn’t say what his response was at all, which could turn the situation any number of ways.
He said everything was fine and jokingly downplayed it.
I do trust my girlfriend 200%. But having feelings for her is one thing, another is acting on them. I don't think I can be his friend if that's the case...
He's texting her back and ignoring you, he's already made the decision that you're not his friend, catch up.
It's not that he's just texting her back. He's initiating chats with her and being insistent. My girlfriend is a bit naive and even she found it umcomfortable. She described the chats and, while I didn't tell her so I wouldn't upset her, it was clearly an awkward attempt to flirt.
I'm just old enough to fully understand this stuff now... being old is no fun, but at least I can see though bad attempts at flirting