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It's my personal experience, so I was wrong in generalizing it, I guess.
But imo this mindset of having yourself dead for some time leads me to spread the victim mindset on my entire life eventually. This is not healthy and I'm trying to avoid it at all costs.
I just wanted to reinforce my opinion that you can (and I have) absolutely become a better person and left the shitty version of myself behind.
If you’re set on being a better person than you were before, then you’re progressing. There’s a quote attributed to Plato, and I don’t know if he actually said this or not. I think this rings true no matter what though.
“Never discourage anyone who continually makes progress, no matter how slow”
Keep being better and you’ll get through the guilt of who you may have been before. Be a voice for those you may have slighted earlier in life. It gets easier as time goes on, I can promise you it does from personal experience.
Thanks for your perspective, but it doesn't work for me that way.
Yes, I'm trying my best to become a better person tomorrow, but it doesn't come from nowhere. I did a lot of awful stuff, it was me, not someone who's dead right now. It was me all the time.
When I try to rationalize that behavior I always find myself in a loop where I jump from "nope, it was not me, it's my parents' influence" to "I've been rude to my gf today because I haven't had enough sleep". That's a victim mindset and I've been in therapy for far too long to relapse today just because I want to feel good about myself.