I have such an air to water heat-pump. It reaches 55°C without the supplementary electric water heater, which is more than sufficient if you have a hot water tank. The supplementary electric heater is really only used when too many people want to shower in a short timeframe or to occasionally heat the tank up to 70°C+ to kill off any bacteria that might be growing in it.
I don't think you will find a heat-pump with a variable drive compressor like you are proposing, but a DIY solution might be feasible.
But why not just install a vacuum tube solar-thermal water heater? They are more efficient anyways.