My first thought was: therapy. Find a good professional (sometimes takes a while) with whom you can try to understand and improve your life.
Obviously we're different people, but my silver bullet was 300mg Wellbutrin. (150mg did nothing.)
I have ADHD that doesn't respond to stimulants, so my doc tried Wellbutrin. Didn't touch my ADHD, unfortunately, but I haven't had a violent outburst in years. Last night, I dropped a piece of lasagna on the kitchen floor and reacted with a "goddammit," instead of the tantrums I've had in the past. So much nicer.
Not sure what you have or haven't tried but there's a strong correlation between certain types of neurodivergence, depression, anxiety, imposter syndrome, and anger issues.
When my depression got out of control it was the anger issues that clued me in and got me to seek help.
If you have not discussed depression/ anxiety meds with your doctor that may be an avenue to help regulate things.
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