What do you want to do with your server and how much budget do you have?
I probably can't help you, but others will need this information
Go through all the apps on your phone that have to talk to the cloud to do their job. Most of them can be replaced with privacy preserving self-hosted alternatives.
A good starting point would probably be Nextcloud. And remember to also think about a backup strategy for important data.
Proxmox on the host, setup some apps in LXCs and some others inside docker. Pihole, tailscale, maybe home assistant if you have IoT devices
Also a media server with Jellyfin, radarr, sonarr is pretty fun to make and nice to have. Every service on LXCs and with this scripts tteck is damn easy. Also this tutorial is a game changer Unprivileged LXCs you can mount CIFS shares in to the unprivileged LXCs with samba.
Often for people who ask this kind of question things like /r/CosmosServer or CasaOS are ideal as first step.
But you could simply search this sub because this exact post has been made countless times already.
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