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[–] callyral@pawb.social 4 points 19 hours ago

Fun fact: gender expression and gender identity are different concepts.

I personally don't really get the difference, but regardless just respect what people like being/want to be called ×w×

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

I never got the makeup thing. To me it just looks artificial. (I don't like it on women either.)

I do get the skirt thingy and the bangs omg long hair is so desirable (i'm currently letting it grow, it's already touching my shoulders (technically).

[–] DaPorkchop_@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)
[–] DaPorkchop_@lemmy.ml 2 points 11 hours ago
[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 2 days ago (2 children)

„My face when when pretty 🥺“

Sorry, I had too :3

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 2 days ago

the masculine urge to wear nothing but a kilt and a bright magenta tank top

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 25 points 2 days ago

How dare you? That’s disgusting. I would never get bangs.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

And less body hair and better head-hair and soft skin and soft body and boob sweat and girl stink and less bulk between legs and and and....

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)
  1. Yes, I use an Epilator (very painful), my body hair is already much thinner just from doing that alone. Though I wish it were less noticeable or even just not there.
  2. Not planning on getting HRT since I don't really want to grow breasts.
  3. I don't know what Girlstink is but I assume it's related to HRT.
  4. No.
[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Understandable; that was just my own desires/goals/stream-of-consciousness and i probably should have specified that

[–] LegoBrickOnFire@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Hormones affect the smell of sweat; testosterone vs estrogen. Aka, girl smell different.

[–] LegoBrickOnFire@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Ok I wanted to confirm ^^ I'm not crazy it really is girl stink

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

i mean like - that has to be a masculine thing too right? like - not all guys are super aggressive selfish capitalist.. right?

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

it's called a "low T male"

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 19 hours ago

awwww i wsh i had low T <3 🍵☕🧸🍼🛌