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Femboys are boys who dress, act, and/or look feminine.

Trans girls are girls who were assigned male at birth and identify as girls.

I hope this clears up any misconceptions on the subject.

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[–] Goretantath@lemm.ee 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

One of these is someone being forced to dress as the opposite gender because their mom is a nutcase btw.

[–] FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Metafalls_@beehaw.org 2 points 2 days ago

The bottom left one

[–] knightly@pawb.social 40 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Sorry to confuse the issue, but I'm an AMAB enby that fits both and neither of these categories. =3

[–] morphballganon@mtgzone.com 19 points 4 days ago (2 children)
[–] knightly@pawb.social 13 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] morphballganon@mtgzone.com 8 points 4 days ago

Oh right, duh, thanks

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[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 days ago (2 children)

You're just too awesome B)

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[–] modcolocko@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] missphant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I don't think Astolfo is a femboy cause they never refer to themselves as a boy and the japanese games use neutral pronouns. Big non-binary energy.

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 12 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Maybe, I don't know. He certainly does give off femboy/femby energy. Maybe he might be both.

[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

femby

Learned a new word today, I'll just paste the definition for others to learn :)

Femby, also known as femenby, finby, fenby, or finenby, is a gender identity for those who identify as feminine and non-binary.
https://lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Femby

[–] Soulg@ani.social 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I thought there was a scene where he acknowledges he was a boy and just wears the clothes he wants?

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 10 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (6 children)

Grand Order uses they/them and their gender is [Redacted] in the stats.

Things change, eggs crack, etc

Plus they're not real

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

astolfo is real in our hearts, shut up!!

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

You should get that checked out by a doctor

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 days ago

am i not supposed to have anime people inside my organs? i think i did something wrong

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[–] parmesan@lemmy.world 36 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Ruka is probably my favorite trans character in media for the fact she tried to alter time to "become a girl". Someone just needed to let her know about the magic of estrogen

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 25 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Maybe she just wanted more than what Estrogen and bottom surgery could provide her?

[–] parmesan@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago (6 children)

Maybe, it just seemed to me that she didn't consider or know about the possibility of transitioning

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 7 points 4 days ago

It's possible I guess, maybe she also just didn't want to wait for changes that would never be as good as if it had always been (yesterday is way faster than 2-3 years after all), and also when you change history, you change all people's memories too.

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[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

at the same time, I hate that so much of her motivation seems to be "I wanna date the MC and the MC is straight, so I must become a girl."

Steins;Gate is honestly so good I often forget it's basically a harem VN. It's not like I should be that surprised one of the girls is written that way, but I wish the Ruka arc focused more on how she felt about her own self and identity, rather than her infatuation with the MC.

[–] mortalglowworm@reddthat.com 22 points 4 days ago

You decide on who you are and anybody telling you who you are can ef right off.

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 days ago

oh so pink and blue are femboy, while brown and gray are girls

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm a gender fluid trans girl except on Femboy Friday when I'm a femboy. My pronouns depend on the day of the week, but I always am okay with she/her.

[–] sneezycat@sopuli.xyz 24 points 4 days ago (3 children)

What pronouns do you use on logsday?

login/logout

[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 3 points 3 days ago

On Caturday mew/mewth

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[–] asqapro@reddthat.com 8 points 4 days ago

Top left - Astolfo (Fate/Apocrypha) (artist is pas / paxiti - https://danbooru.donmai.us/posts/3208688) (NSFW site)

Bottom left - Nagisa (Assassination Classroom)

Top right - Lily Hoshikawa (Zombieland Saga)

Bottom right - Luka Urushibara (Steins;Gate) (artist is foge - https://danbooru.donmai.us/posts/1271211) (NSFW site)

[–] AllBiMyself@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 4 days ago

Love em both though

[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

not at all disguised bisexuals, let us assemble ✨

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Assassination classroom femboy, excellent choice.

[–] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yeah but he was a male forced to dress as a girl by his Mom (and on one occasion, the classmates). I don't think he would want to be included as a femboy.

[–] buddascrayon@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Yeah, that's why I found his inclusion odd. There are a plethora of better choices of actually femboys who dress and act like girls uncoerced.

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 6 points 4 days ago

And there’s nothing wrong with being either! Both are adorable :D

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

oh no - "learn the difference" god that phrase still makes me mad

[–] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 25 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Sorry if I offended anyone. I was actually very upset when I posted this because someone had been arguing that I'm an egg and trans girl in denial and that femboys are just trans girls who haven't gotten HRT and bottom surgery.

They said a lot more evil shit that I don't want to repeat. So I felt the need to make this post here and on !femboy@lemmy.blahaj.zone and I was kind of still upset when I came up with the title.

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with an 🥚joke every now and then, but you shouldn’t argue with someone about their gender! That’s a very unsilly thing to do D:

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

A single egg joke now and then, when it's very clear it's a joke, might be okay as like an in-joke, but if everyone says it every so often then OP's gonna see that joke from someone constantly.

If you hear an ironic joke too often, it starts to lose its irony, and in this case that would probably lead to feelings of invalidation. So don't make the joke towards people you don't know.

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