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Good thing winter is on its way, so I can cover it up when I have to go outside.

That's it, that's the update for today :)

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[–] Eikichi@lemmy.ml 17 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Once you can do an "man bun" and then a lot more, its just pur happiness.

Lessss goo

[–] whynotzoidberg@lemmy.world 16 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Miss_brainfart might go with a traditional “woman bun”.

Or, the genderless alternative of just a “bun”.

[–] Eikichi@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yeah yeah true, sorry, thats what i got in head,

for me it was razors for sides,
and the top growing so thats why i got man bun in head. bc i do that and release them when im girly.

But i used the "". Sorry again,

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

It's alright, no need to be sorry^^

While I do want to go for more stereotypically feminine styles, any gender can do and wear whatever at the end of the day :)

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Idk, I think I'm not a fan of buns in general. But who knows, maybe it'll actually look good on me.

I'll try it, that's for sure

[–] Eikichi@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

😍 😍 what i got in the head, style like :
https://external-content.duckduckgo.com/iu/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fi.redd.it%2Fr1g0oxpxg0v31.jpg&f=1&nofb=1&ipt=3b642cce5d6886e4692cc7fc3fa4ab59f7e287928a652456ccf25945515fa8d8&ipo=images

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

That does look really cute, hmmm

[–] DrPop@lemmy.one 11 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Ticking the inside of your ear and nose is the worst. It's great that I call it the same thing. Whatever you choose to do with that hair you're beautiful.

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago

Thank you^^

[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (3 children)

Headbands and scrunchies are your friend!

Also milestones worth celebrating (say, with a beer or smoothie or banana split):

  • Hair in the eyes
  • Hair in the mouth
  • Hair down the throat
  • Hair at the shoulders
  • Using an entire Costco bottle of fancy conditioner every month
[–] CorrenteAlternata@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Headbands and scrunchies are your friend!

confirm!

Also milestones worth celebrating (say, with a beer or smoothie or banana split):

  • Hair in the eyes ✔️
  • Hair in the mouth ✔️
  • Hair down the throat ✔️
  • Hair at the shoulders ✔️
  • Using an entire Costco bottle of fancy conditioner every month ✔️

I guess I have to catch up with my celebrations, yeah!

I'd also add

  • I am going to shower but I'm not washing my hear because it takes too much time to wash and then to dry!
[–] Entertainmeonly@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I stopped washing everyday and my scalp thanks me for it. I was my hair about every 5 to 7 days. Unless I'm out hiking and sweating a lot or I just get really dirty but on normal weeks is like 5 days. I've got super thick hair as well so ya drying can very a real chore. I do make sure to put some oil in it once it's dry though. How do I post a picture so everyone can see?

I stopped washing everyday and my scalp thanks me for it. I was my hair about every 5 to 7 days

Me too, I usually wash it only on Sundays...but sometimes it just feels like a big chore, it's so much effort...

Probably because I don't know how to dry it effectively...maybe I need to watch a tutorial?

do make sure to put some oil in it once it's dry though.

me too, I put oil every once in a while and brush them everyday to keep it nice. I have fairly long hair now (3+ years growing!)

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Alright, celebrating with a banana split sounds like a plan. Fucking love banana split

[–] Vlaxtocia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I've grown and cut my hair several times before I started balding, from my experience, hair in the eyes is the start of the awkward stage, and hair in the mouth is when you're at the end of it

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I would say I only need a further 2cm for the eyes to happen, but my hair is rather floofy and needs to be a lot longer to actually fall down on my face

[–] Vlaxtocia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Soon™ I'm growing mine out again and I'm hoping my thin patch won't make it look awful lol. The finasteride has done some good work, hoping I'll see more regrowth

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

You'll look great, I'm sure :D

[–] Vlaxtocia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I hope so, I really want to be pretty and cute, but I might be a bit too old for that now 😂 I'd settle for beautiful though but we'll see how I go

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

Either way, you'll look good^^

[–] Willowthewisp@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

The awkward phases can be very annoying but it's definitely worth it to battle through them. The first time I grew my hair I cut it because I couldn't stand it getting in my eyes all the time. I definitely regret that. It's past my shoulders now though and it's amazing.

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

I trimmed mine down to 6mm for the longest time, but now... Feeling the wind in my hair fills me with so much joy

[–] doofer_name@feddit.de 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You and me both sister! I’m soo glad for winter to come around. I always had been a winter gal, but even more so atm.

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I've never liked winter much, but I'll at least appreciate it this year

[–] argarath@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Oh you'll love how warm your neck is with the hair! Seriously, try lifting the hair from there when it's cold, you'll def notice how much it protects you from the cold!

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago

Considering how often I flip-flopped between a near buzzcut and a bit longer hair for winter, I absolutely know how radical the difference is

[–] onevia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Right there with you! Excited for it to get past that stage though 😁

I've found that beanies make me feel cute even though I'm in that awkward stage.

Good luck! ❤️

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

Beanies do look really cute^^

[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Lol I remember when I was at that point a few years ago. I was super worried about it but then COVID happened and I didn't have to go outside for any of it...

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

Even that wouldn't have helped me, we were always asked to turn on our cameras during online classes

[–] Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago

I tucked my hair into a beanie completely for a long time. It looked more feminine to me, since I'd only ever seen women tuck all of their hair into one. Now it's long enough for a bun, but every day I want more of it! And... Do get it trimmed to help it grow healthily, my hair is so split I'm afraid I will need a chop.

[–] argarath@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

When I was growing mine it was the pandemic so I didn't have to really deal with the awkward phase, but I sadly discovered that my hair is EXTREMELY oily and it would get dirty in one day, so I'd need to wash it at least daily, if not more when it got hot and I started to sweat, so I gave up on it

[–] miss_brainfart@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

Yeahhh, I'm someone who sweats a lot, it'll definitely be a challenge to keep it looking fresh