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97% sure someone posted this at some point, but I think it's been a while... ββ οΉβ β
so meβ¦ accelerated by the fact iβm asexual and most of my romantic interests r also asexual. i feel weird for wanting to express love chat π₯π₯
I feel this hard. I always feel like I'm imposing myself on everyone. I'm non binary but masc presenting (even though I don't necessarily like that, it's just my default hardware), and like, I hate that the onus is on me to initiate, because I HATE IT
Hey π
You're valid and probably really cute
They definitely are. Masc-presenting enbies are rare and awesome ^_^
This is one of the many reasons why my life is easier now that I've transitioned from male to female. Now when I do something cringy and weird in order to flirt, people just think it's cute.
I'm on the good side of the double standard now!
I mean not having gender dysphoria anymore's a bigger plus, but ya know, count ya blessings.
this sounds great but unfortunately is not guaranteed to work (ask me how I know). Terms and conditions apply
Hell even cis lesbians struggle with this a lot (afaict it's the source of the infamous top shortage)
Wait⦠all the lesbians I've seen were wearing tops in public.
Oh you mean those tops.
Gosh I still feel like a predator
Maybe I should have just stayed in the vore community, I was in demand lol
gender dysphoria really is a massive debuff
god why is that so real
Holy shit, actually tho.
I'm open for harassment
One time we were having drinks at a local pub because a coworker was leaving the job and moving into the city for a different job/uni
I (fairly drunk) told her that, since I'm in the city a fair bit because of uni, I'd be happy to help her if she needed anything
Fast forward to the next morning and I'm waking up realising that it probably looked like I was hitting on her, when I just wanted to be helpful
So yeah it's those moments that make me not want to make the first step (even if the intention was different)
You're not hitting on her. You were being helpful. Nowwww.... If you continued and followed up multiple times, then yes. Harassment. But if you left it like this, you're just a nice guy.
That's the problem though. I was drunk at the time and can't properly remember what I said fully. It is well within reason I was too insistent or said it weirdly, given that I have 0 social awareness
Oh well. Guess I'll continue to let it be my thought demon for the next decade or so
Please try not to overthink it. This lady had every opportunity to walk away but enjoyed your company.
As long as you're not grabby/feelie you're good.
I'm a very social person that works in marketing. My job works directly with engineers with 0 social skills and we are close enough that they express the same type of concerns as you.
Again, don't overthink it. Unless you're a superior, your coworker can leave your presence at anytime b
You were drunk and might've just been repeating yourself in general
I can make this easier, at least for anyone interacting with me:
If you're reading this, you - yes, you - have my full and explicit permission to compliment me, flirt with me, or ask me out. I am extremely good at saying no if needed and promise not to be offended if you make the first move.
Also you're cute π
That's quite kind of you. And interestingly, despite you clearly communicating an open invitation for interaction, I still encounter internal resistance, almost like a reflex.... which suggests it is still very much a personal issue, and not a cultural one.
Thank you for this moment of reflection, mysterious internet person.
You're welcome!
And if you do want to message me, I'm very friendly
They shot every shot at once, this strategy is crazy
I'm aggressively poly so, yeah. I'm constantly shooting all of the shots.
Is it bad that i kinda read this like a llm preprompt? Except for people, and to be honest im kinda here for it. I kinda feel bad for bothering people, and this "preprompt" kinda opens the door for conversation
How do I say "I need this on a tshirt" but redirect the ads to someone else?
I kinda feel bad for bothering people, and this "preprompt" kinda opens the door for conversation
That's the idea! :)
I'm glad it's working, I was worried it wouldn't. Bystander effect and all that.
This. I'd rather die alone than risk even the slightest possibility of making someone else uncomfortable.
why yes I am in therapy how did you know
Yeah the fear of imposing on someone. There are plenty of assholes, but lots of perfectly nice people just communicate what they want/need/feel and itβs okay. Not just talking about dating.
Then whenever you take your risk and do it, and get rejected, you retreat back to try it again in 6 months.
Edit: I have zero problem and welcome people being honest, and adjust accordingly. But when I try to do that it rarely works the same way. Could just be how I communicate, but it is a struggle.
I feel the exactly the same but am not in therapy. ... Maybe I should consider therapy.
Same.
I think the thing that makes people uncomfortable in this kind of scenario is if you don't stop when they ask you to. Or you just refuse to take no for an answer. But our species would cease existing if nobody ever was made uncomfortable at some point by flirting because everyone's lines and desires are on a spectrum. You can say the exact same thing the same way to two different folks and one will turn around and slap you for it and the other will get on their knees for you. Humans are weird.
Im not fem and i feel like this so many times. What i fear most, much more than rejection is overstepping social lines. Also if youre a woman pls make the first move, its extremely hot if the guy is a switch i can tell you that lol.
Fr. I wish I was into men. Making the first move as a woman is so goddamn easy. Sure, rejection is scary, but that's it.
I shall stand at the sidelines and encourage my female friends to 1) communicate and work on their issues and 2) go after that hairy man's ass.
99% sure that's pretty normal for healthy minded people, men, women, trans, non-binary etc.
Making the first move is taking a risk: aka being vulnerable. It's when they don't respond enthusiastically and you don't stop that it's a problem.
It is normal to feel some degree of trepidation when taking a risk: aka being vulnerable, but I don't think its a stretch of the imagination to assert that it might be more stressful if you don't have a firm grasp of neurotypical social graces and nonverbal communication.
As an autistic person, what has worked quite well for me, though takes getting used to, is very transparently communicating about intentions and consent. It can seem quite intense but it does mean everyone knows where they stand and where boundaries lie.
harass me.
HEY!
LISTEN!
You should smile more
Ok.
Hi.
Once you get passed the mask my default mode of interaction is flirting! Still too shy to be actually vulnerable tho.
No worries I will make the first move
Pawn to e4
Checkmate.
Your move.
π
Mate? That's very forward and a primal way to put it but hey why not
We're demi and enm so we kind of just become friends with people and hope it works out.