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[–] pyre@lemmy.world 27 points 4 hours ago

i know I'll get downvoted to oblivion for saying this but I don't care; I think this is disgusting. i don't like shaming people for who they are or what they do, or bullying of any kind, BUT i also think it's absolutely apprehensible behavior to engage in a romantic relationship with someone who uses discord.

[–] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 10 points 3 hours ago

Hahaha, she's fat. The horror. The betrayal. He thought he had a girl who loved him, but little did he know she was fat. And nothing is more horrific than that. Thank God he found out, he might have started caring about her, like an idiot.

[–] nimble@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 16 hours ago (5 children)

Without context this isn't funny and the most i can get out of it is that it is fat shaming and/or shaming unshaved legs

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 3 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

it's okay to hate bodies that dont conform to the fantasy standard, didn't you get that memo?

it's also fine to hate addicts and neurodivergents and anyone that suffers consequences from behavioral patterns, because anything short of perfection is shit, dontchaknow. god i hate myself

[–] kepix@lemmy.world 12 points 8 hours ago (1 children)
[–] nimble@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 hours ago

Not baiting. I just genuinely don't find content from this community funny when it shows up in my feed. And if you can't explain what is funny about this post without thinking its bait then maybe you should reflect on that.

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 38 points 12 hours ago

I think the implication is OP got catfished

[–] simop_jo@lemm.ee 16 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (4 children)

I don't like the idea of the word fat-shaming. Of course I don't condone bullying but being so hyper protective about someone being fat just is peculiar to me. When I was fat myself, due to the teasing of my friends (again not bullying) I put in the work and got fit therefore now I'm more healthy. That wouldn't happen if my friends were afraid of not "fat-shaming" me

[–] pyre@lemmy.world 5 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

my father beat me and I turned out fine-

-ass comment

[–] Soulg@ani.social -1 points 2 hours ago

Delusional comparison lol

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

You can credit whatever you want in your head, but learning to hate our bodies is more of a recipe for eating disorders than it is for self-care of exercising and eating right

[–] tauren@lemm.ee -1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

That doesn't mean others can't dislike what they see.

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

", Tauren desperately interjected, eager to remind the two strangers talking about their own bodies that he hates fat people.

[–] tauren@lemm.ee -1 points 3 hours ago

When you misuse words, they lose any meaning, and so does your speech.

[–] unbanshee@lemmy.dbzer0.com 29 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

I mean, that's nice for you, but the difference is that that teasing was coming from the friends, and not internet randos who neither know nor care about you.

Next to nobody who sees that screenshot knows the person in the photo, or whether they're even able to lose weight by "putting in the work".

Also, there's a preponderance of evidence that your case is an outlier, and "teasing" does not improve the lives of its targets.

You never know what somebody is going through, and it costs nothing to be kind.

[–] simop_jo@lemm.ee 24 points 10 hours ago

You're right, I should try and be more kind. Sorry

[–] Tabula_stercore@lemmy.world -2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Putting in the work is mostly eating normal portions, and not only grease USA™.

That person is fat, it's not normal and it has nothing to do with being kind.

[–] unbanshee@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (4 children)

I'm not gonna engage with you beyond this since you're obviously uninterested in opinions other than your own, otherwise you might have looked at any of the studies I linked investigating weight-related stigma, which is related to others' kindness or lack thereof.

You're not fighting societal acceptance of obesity, you're just lazily perpetuating harmful social stigmas to justify your own discomfort with fat people.

You say it's not "normal" to be fat, but if a condition is considered epidemic, it's not really abnormal anymore, is it.

You don't know what that person eats. You don't know if that person has a medical disorder. You don't know if that person is disabled and unable to prepare healthy food for themselves. You don't know if that person has an eating disorder that they can't afford treatment for. You don't know if that person is on medications that affect their weight. You don't know if that's even a real person or an AI-generated image.

But you're real quick to diagnose the cause of their obesity as exclusively their personal failure for not eating the correct amount of the correct food.

It takes minutes to see what researchers are saying about this stuff.

Historically, the central dogma of the science of obesity has been that it is simply an energy balance disorder: calories in, calories out. If this energy-based model (EBM) of obesity, was true, then essentially exercising more and eating less should work for everyone. However, this is not the case. Many researchers believe that the pathophysiology of obesity is more complex.

While both social–environmental factors and genetic preposition have been recognized to play important roles in obesity epidemic, Gao et al. (2021) present evidence showing that epigenetic changes may be a key factor to explain interindividual differences in obesity.

Honestly there have been a few times recently where I've seen fat people doing or saying interesting things online, and half the fucking comments are vitriol about their weight and how it reflects on their character, as though that overshadows and invalidates anything they're doing. And sometimes I see other commenters challenging these views, and sometimes the hate commenters will backpedal of they realize that the person they're discussing has what the consider to be a valid medical excuse.

I'm autistic and ADHD, and to me, that kind of behaviour is a reflection of what goes on in places like fakedisordercringe, where they claim to respect people with official diagnoses but never bother to actually see which of their targets has an official diagnosis, or consider that the absence of a formal diagnosis doesn't mean the absence of the condition. And that's because it's not actually about the underlying reasons for the behavior they're mocking, because they don't care about those reasons. They'd rather not know if there's a diagnosis that would exclude their target from mockery because how their target is acting makes them uncomfortable.

It's a way of enforcing conformity through cruelty, just like bullying fat people.

And I've read stuff like this piece, with the line "I wish I didn’t have to justify myself, or base my worth on proving that I’m trying.", and I see myself in that. I've burned myself out multiple times and seriously damaged my physical and mental health as a result of trying to act like I'm neurotypical.

I'm fucking tired of seeing anybody get judged as moral deficients online by people who know nothing about them or their histories.

[–] ArtificialHoldings@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

The irony being that despite the ironclad argument you wrote, they'll still irrationally judge fat people for their weight.

[–] BussyCat@lemmy.world -4 points 4 hours ago

It’s iron clad in the literal sense that cladding something clad with iron still is heavily susceptible to corrosion.

At the end of the day being fat is a choice, you can have a metabolic disorder that causes you to gain weight if you eat 1/8th the calories of the average person but you are still choosing to eat more than you need. You can have abnormal signaling pathways that make you feel hungry or even lightheaded that causes you to overeat but again you are choosing to give in to a feeling that you know is bad for you. You can be disabled/poor and struggle to prepare food so you only eat cheap unhealthy food but you are still choosing to eat more of it than you need. Making fun of people for being fat might not help them lose weight but it’s not like you are making fun of a person because of something they can’t change like their race, sexual orientation, or even height, it is something that they can 100% change and the picture isn’t of someone whose 10-20 pounds overweight but instead well over 100lbs more than they should be.

It might be an unpopular opinion but a person should feel bad when they are that glutinous that they have consumed 500k calories above their required weight

[–] CommanderCloon@lemmy.ml 1 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Huh, the meta-analysis you linked doesn't really align with your point though (excerpt from the conclusion, emphasis is mine):


Key practice implications

The causes of obesity are manifold and cannot be attributed to one single cause, such as overeating.

In most cases, including polygenic obesity, the factors causing obesity are modifiable.

[–] supamanc@lemmy.world -1 points 6 hours ago

Yeah but, despite all of that, (none of which I read, I'm sure it's all true though), it is a natural law of the universe that you cannot get more energy out of a system than you put in. Regardless of all other factors, if you consume upto your daily maintenance calorific intake, you cannot gain weight. If you consume less, you WILL lose weight. Whether external factors or pressures prevent you from managing your calorific intake correctly in another discussion, but the laws of thermodynamics don't take a break when it comes to health and nutrition.

[–] And009@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 8 hours ago

It's natural human interaction, issues arise when either side is intolerant to hearing the others perspective.

[–] untakenusername@sh.itjust.works 11 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[–] endeavor@sopuli.xyz 3 points 10 hours ago

Very simple. Turns out the egirlfriens op has a crush on is not attractive at all to op meaning its over.

[–] AtariDump@lemmy.world 20 points 17 hours ago
[–] BallShapedMan@lemmy.world 99 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"I'm serious. She could actually be a 300 pound dude who lives in his momma's basement in suburban Detroit. And her name is Chuck." - Ready Player One

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 14 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

No, no, no! Come on! Cooper was right... This guy wants to have sex with me!

"Listen, Mieke... I don't want to arrange any meetings with you, you sick, German freak. So please keep your hands off my genitals, and never write to me again, and don't come to America. Goodbye."

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[–] eksb@programming.dev 67 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Is the problem that she uses Gnome, or that she uses dark mode?

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 30 points 17 hours ago (1 children)
[–] pyre@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago

a cis person in the year of our lord 2025? disgusting.

[–] InFerNo@lemmy.ml 14 points 17 hours ago

Doesn't look like gnome in any way. That task bar looks like windows 11. Gnome doesn't have a task bar. The "bar" of icons on the left are discord servers.

[–] iAmTheTot@sh.itjust.works 47 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Doesn't that look more like Windows 11?

[–] jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 1 day ago

Windows 11 did rip off gnome 🤔

[–] fluxion@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

Those are the 2 best things in this image

[–] huppakee@lemm.ee 26 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Maybe she's just cheating and accidently sent you a private pic from the person she's cheating with, don't give up hope /s

[–] nieceandtows@programming.dev 12 points 23 hours ago

You vs the guy she tells you not to worry about

[–] VicksVaporBBQrub@sh.itjust.works 21 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Can't rule out that's a close-up of a capybara. Gf is 3 capybaras stacked in a trenchcoat? Rule 1 of the Internet--pics or she never happened.

[–] reallykindasorta@slrpnk.net 7 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Which number is “there are no girls on the internet?”

I heard this one as, "everyone is a cat".

Quick search says Internet Rule 29 0r 30, "the men are nen, the women are men, or cats, or undercover cops".

Also, "...almost none of the numbers are standardized".

[–] ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't get it

Isn't it pretty normal not to shave your legs?

[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 21 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I think the implication is that the discord girlfriend was an overweight man pretending to be a woman in order to catfish

[–] ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 hours ago

He has very dainty feet then. Twinkle toes even. But it's probably a dude yeah.